I want to thank you for giving me so much good advice. I’m a man who has done all the things you say not to do. I married a woman with red flags because I wanted to be her knight in shining armor. We had a daughter, and after thirteen long years of marriage that included infidelity, drug abuse, and a prison stint (by her), we divorced. I met another woman, married her and had another daughter with her. Three years later that marriage also ended.