I Was a Nanny

Read on the Wednesday, July 15th radio program.

Dear Dr. Laura, I wanted to let moms know that they are the only ones who can truly love their children all day, every day.

I was a nanny and cared deeply for the children I looked after, but after having my own boys, I decided to stop being a nanny so I could give all my attention and love to my own children. I always treated the children in my care with affection and kindness, but I could never love them the way I loved my own.

It broke my heart when they called me “Mom.” I would gently correct them and tell them that their mother loved them very much but had to be at work and would be home soon. It happened over and over again because I was the one filling that role during the day. Anyone who thinks they have a wonderful nanny who loves their children exactly like her own is mistaken. A loving mother cannot be replaced by a paid caregiver.

I stayed home with my boys throughout their childhood and couldn’t imagine them calling someone else “Mom.” It’s sad that some mothers think they can be so easily replaced.

Thank you for your words of wisdom and for teaching me that nobody could be a mother to my children but me. I listened to you on AM radio when I was only 15 years old, and I knew then that when I had children, I would be the only one they called Mom.

You have been a tremendous influence and inspiration in my life. I never took your advice for granted and always tried to listen to that voice in my head asking, “What would Dr. Laura do?”

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Sincerely,

Jenni

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