In Good Times and In Bad
Would you adhere to your vows in any situation?
What do the vows, “in good times and in bad” mean to you? Would you adhere to them in any situation? That’s what my listener, Ann, was grappling with when she wrote to me about a friend who left her marriage of 25 years. Sure, the first 13 were filled with physical and emotional abuse. But in the last 12, the husband had found religion and become a recovering alcoholic. Wasn’t he worthy of his wife’s forgiveness and love after all his growth and change?
I found Ann’s letter fascinating, and I was dying to hear how my listeners perceived the situation. So, I brought it up on my SiriusXM radio program and invited callers to tell me if she should stay or go. The hour whole was filled with an interesting mix of reactions, and we received letters for days after it aired. What would you do? You can download “In Good Times and In Bad,” this week’s Deep Dive podcast now!
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Loved the deep dive format where callers offered analysis and opinion about the woman who was over her marriage to the drunk, even though he had been sober for 12 years. My analysis is this: when he stopped being abusive, it created a safe space for her to find out who she was in this marriage, this relationship, and with herself. The woman who fell in love with him at the beginning was long gone. As he grew stronger, so did she. It was only after she got to the point of clarity and strength that she had the tits to finally leave him. I find this both ironic and poetic.