We Were “Mean” Parents

Read on the Wednesday, July 8th radio program.

Dear Dr. Laura, I am a very proud stay-at-home mom of two boys and the wife of the best husband and father any girl could have dreamed of.

When our oldest son came of driving age and obtained his license, he was under the impression that we would buy him a car. Most of his friends had parents who bought them a car, so he expected us to do the same. We could have done that, but my husband and I stuck to our decision and told him that when he got a job and could afford the car, as well as the insurance and maintenance, then he could have one. He thought we were very mean and unfair at the time.

He got a job, did everything he needed to do, and eventually bought his first car entirely on his own. He is now older and living out of state. He recently called to thank his dad and me for being “mean” and making him buy his first car! He said it made him appreciate it more and helped shape him into the independent man he is today. I was very happy that he truly understands our decision was in his best interest.

Now our youngest has a job, is finishing up high school, and has recently bought his first truck. He pays for everything himself and walks with pride. Thank you for reminding us that we are responsible for raising men, not boys. Your words of wisdom on this topic helped keep me on track when I wanted to make things easier for the boys. It definitely takes a man to raise a man, and my husband did an amazing job.

Thank you for everything you do and the impact you have on so many people.

Lovingly,
Jenni

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